Creating an Exit and Forgiving

624x416You can be a better you, if you have gotten rid of “what used to be”. You should no longer be held the responsibility of fighting for “what we could have been”. You wished you could have made him happy–you tried and you tried. But you can’t try with someone who refuses to make an effort. You can’t try with someone who constantly brings the worse out of you. You just can’t.  It’s not healthy to linger on someone who is inconsistent and incapable to see your worth. You fell in love with your expectations of him in your mind, not his formality of who he really is in SGN522_W1_Lreality. Part of the reason why the past is interfering your presence is because you ALLOWED it to show up. It does not matter how many times you ignored his text, phone calls, email or social media messages—that one time you reach out to him will be the spark of an indescribable situation. You hope it would be different this time around but it’s the same show, just a different episode. There will never be an exit sign, the entrance will always be open for another heart-broken episode. If you leave space and opportunity for someone to hurt you again, then you will never receive the love that you truly deserve.  Go ahead and create an EXIT sign for the miseries, false memories, hurt, pain and betrayals. Create an exit sign with nowhere to re-enter, keep the doorknob lock and do not unlock what “used” to make you happy and what “used” to keep you going in life. What used to belong to you, was never meant to be for you.  Learn to accept the past for what it is and appreciate what’s now a new beginning.

brown-sugar-2002Somewhere, deep inside there is this conscious telling you to be YOU again! But how can you be the cheery, always smiling and nice person everybody once knew? Be willing to forgive. You’re not doing it for others and you’re not doing it the guy that broke your heart. This is a healing process for you. Forgiving takes you on an ultimate level of happiness–” You have agreed to move on from the past, which means you have agreed to not let your emotions get the best of you”.  When the past occurs uninvited (because in some cases the past tends to creep in when you least expect it); the person appearance, words and gesture should not affect your mind, body and soul. Your connection with that person should be disconnected and unresponsive. That remorseful feeling you’ve been carrying for years is finally gone and his true colors are exposed. You don’t get even or bring up how much pain you’ve went through, because the process of forgiving reveals a better place in your heart to not forget about it–but to never acknowledge it. 700-love-broken-heart-sewing-divorce-split-breakup

The only person who is stopping you from becoming a better you is YOU. Restore your love life and set things in order! It won’t make sense in the beginning, but it will all add up towards the end.  You have to be a firm believer of “This too shall pass”. All things will fall right into place. So today, to continue this journey of “A Better You”; take the challenge to create an “Exit” sign and to be WILLING to “Forgive”.  Create an exit sign; remove everything that reminds you of that person and replace it with what makes you currently happy. Forgive the ones who have hurt you by knocking down the wall that’s keeping them from apologizing. Accept the apology truly in your heart and move on for good. Are you up for the challenge? Decided on the choice now and share with others the experience of LIVING a better you! I would love to hear your feedback, please comment below and elaborate. The world is a better place with the form of originality, thank you so much for being just YOU!


Dhane Philord

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    a little bit, but other than that, this is great blog.
    An excellent read. I’ll certainly be back.

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