Black Girl Magic: Don’t Be Afraid to Stand Out

“A win for one is a win for all” – Jurnee Smollett-Bell

What does Black Girl Magic means in my perspective point of view? It means sisterhood — having the ability to stand up for each other and work as a unity instead of being divided. It gives us that power of recognition to break silence, as we use our voice to speak up and reach higher. I mentioned this statement earlier on my Facebook page, posted a quote from Tika Sumpter stating: “Black Girl Magic means we can do anything we want to do. We are natural born leaders and we persevere through everything and when somebody says ‘no’, we smile and keep it moving.” I added on to her statement quoting: “Essentially, no is not considered a rejection. I personally, won’t take no for an answer because it simply defines that it’s not meant to be — I just haven’t found my ‘yes’ yet. There’s always an opportunity for ALL of us to make it, we just have to remain confident, solicitous and unapologetic. We must continue to strive for the best and build a strong support system. In this complex world that we live in, there is a lack of equity but Black Girl Magic gives us the equal acknowledgement that we deserve. For that, I am forever grateful and of course, proud of the platform that we’ve created.”

I stressed this so many times– We as black women, have to stick together. We cannot be in a competition with each other while society is perpetrating America’s standard beauty as a Caucasian woman with long luscious blonde hair and blue eyes. That is only a portion of America’s beauty — a black woman with rich dark melanin skin, and we can’t forget out beautifully, nappy and curly afro is also a dose of America’s beauty. Together, we can unite and create something inevitable.

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” – Maya Angelou

I love myself way too much than to deal with society’s definition of being successful, most importantly — I love myself so much, that I wouldn’t even think about joining the statistics of those who chose to settle for their success.

Now, let me say this: Nothing is impossible, there is no limit to how far your dreams can take you. If you truly want to be your own boss, you have to exert yourself to believe that you can be one of the best. But then, you also have to ask yourself — what is it that you’re trying to be the best at? What is your true purpose in life? Are you passionate about it? Don’t just say that you want to run your own company, without giving the consideration of a master plan behind it and also the heart to pursue it. In other words: You can’t sit with us if you’re only pretending to be like us – and by us I mean Queens who don’t back down on nothing or deal with the bull. Around here, we get the things done.

“It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela

You see, they really don’t make them like us anymore. We’re true lover of God, the real goal-getters, the believers and the achievers, the “We Fail So Many Times But We’re Right Back Up Into Action” type of people. Nope, now all we have is majority of people who rather stick to something fast and quick — an easy way to get easy money. There’s a few of us who would put in sweat and tears for our foundation to last, a few of us who would settle in for some noodles instead of a fancy meal, a few of us who wouldn’t mind losing sleep and a few of us who knows the struggles of not fitting in. If this sounds like you then I’m talking to you–this one is for you.

Oh no, this ain’t a game…this is real life. Get up and get on your grind! It’s going to take more than just posting pictures and a few quotes to get to where you need to be. Don’t brag about it, be about it! Do your research, study and discipline yourself — your favorite television shows aren’t going anywhere and the movies, you can always catch them on DVD or Netflix. Drop the remote and pick up a book, drop your party-going, gossiping, no future plan so called friends and hang out with the ones who are going to take you to the next level. Drop the negativities and bring out the positive side of you. Its 2016, we’re still at the beginning of this year — we can’t have a repeat of last year episodes of “Next Year will be My Year”, NO– this year is here and we’re not aiming for next year! You just have to do it and continue doing it until you see progress. Remember, slow progress is still progress.

“The time is always right to do something right” – Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Now is our time to shine. The time is right now. How do you know? You don’t know, but you’ll never know unless you try. I remembered sitting in class back in college, daydreaming about what my life would have been like if I just went for it. I didn’t like the space I was in and I was tired of my energy being drained from my worriedness.  So I took matters into my own hands and went for it…just…like…that. It wasn’t easy but you have to understand nothing in life is easy, especially success. If you want to be successful, you gotta get used to sacrificing and failing.  You’re only a loser if you give up. The road to success is not made for cowards and if you want a straight path, then you’re already setting yourself up for failure. You have to create a bright side for yourself. Give yourself a visual of things that you would like to see 5 years later. Convince yourself that it will be worth the wait and start working on it. For me, I have big plans on a lot of things — I’m cooking up something great for you all but it’s going to take time to get there and that’s O.K. That’s another thing: You gotta be O.K with things not going your way or the way you expect it to go.

“Wanna fly, you got to give up the sh*t that weighs you down” – Song of Solomon, 1977

You gotta be F R E E ! Anyone or anything that’s holding you back, let them or it go! LET IT GO. Trust your instincts to believe what you’re doing is the right thing for you – not for your parents, siblings, friends, significant other but for YOU. I used to worry about what people have to say about me when I decided to pursue my passion of becoming an entrepreneur/fashion designer. I would hear stuff like:
  • Fashion designers don’t make money, and plus it’s not a safe career to have.
  • Entrepreneur? With what money? What about investors, capitals and lawsuits, are you ready for all those financial crisis?!?!?
  • Girl, go where all the money is at…be a nurse or a doctor
  • Yeah, um I really don’t see you going anywhere with that fashion stuff of be your own boss – you may need to lower your standards a couple notch or more.
  • It’s too complicated, stick with something easy

The list goes on! I would be the foolish one to listen to them, but instead I trusted in God and believed in myself. The part where some people get confused is that money doesn’t bring you true happiness – is what you do as a living that does. Whatever you put your heart into will be the happiest place and moment of your life. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself when it’s time to fly. Relax, breathe and set your wings to go as high as you can. God will be able to catch you when you fall just to bring you right back up.  Don’t be afraid to stand out — one hope can open doors to a million opportunities.  Again, there’s room for all of us to grow and we have the power to make a difference in this world. Black Girl Magic is in all of us!





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