If The TIme is Not Now Then When?


“Will you be silent or will you stand up and let your voice be heard”?

My name could possibly be written as the next hashtag. The fear of driving every single day with the thought of not making it home. I used to end my text messages to my siblings daily by replying, “Have a great day at school or work, get home safe”. Now, it’s required for me to text- “Call me when you’re on the road “. I can’t believe I’m writing about this. I’ve been trying to avoid it but my heart is so heavy, Real Pointers blog was supposed to be uplifting, spreading love and peace but it’s sad that I have to write about other subject matter. I can’t talk  about “peace”  when my life’s in danger. You think I want to write about what’s really going on in this cruel place we call home? Blackness is not a crime. America, this is not freedom. The image above was taken by a New Orlean Photographer, Jonathan Bachman during the protest in Baton Rouge, Louisiana. The young woman in this picture goes by the name of Leshia Evans, who stood in front of two armed police officers, clearly showing no trace of fear to back down. The year is 2016– America is this what we as Black people have to come down to in order to be treated equally with respect? We sacrificed our blood, sweat and tears through music, sports, comedy, and other entertainments but the result of it shows history repeating itself. My heart hurts so bad, it’s a nightmare.  Take a look around you and see what’s going on in certain parts of this country. Some police officers are getting away with MURDER. Children’s fare fatherLESS out there because of this senseless act. We can’t even put our hands up anymore to dodge a bullet going through our flesh. The chants continues, “DON’T SHOOT” because our lives are being taken away without a VALID reason or in most case: For no apparent reason(s) . America, this is not freedom. 

I’m not a celebrity and I’m nobody famous. I’m just a black young woman who is in desperate need of a change in this world.  Today is a good day to speak my mind. Can I tell you all the truth? It’s not the type of good day when you’re happy and everything is going well. It’s the kind of good day when you’re agonized about what’s going on around but you still managed to get up and do something about it. My brothers and sisters—aren’t we all tired? I was looking through my newsfeed on Facebook a few weeks ago and for some friends, I was truly concerned. There was not one post on their page about Alton Sterling and Philando Castile during social injustices. It happened within 24 hours, back to back. It happened…again. The truth of the matter is—there are some people that could care less of what’s going on. I’m baffled towards the reaction that others are simply ignoring this continuous issue of police brutality. Imagine if we all shared the same mentality of remaining quiet? There wouldn’t be a Martin Luther King Jr, Malcolm X, Harriet Tubman, Rosa, Parks or Jesse Williams.  Just imagine how much of a difference it would be if we all chose to play it “safe”.  Scary, right? But because of them (and many more) we can. We can stand up for what’s right and pave the way for other generations to UNITE and stop the violence once and for all. The current crisis-events in our nation should not divide but bring us all together instead and use our voice. This is not the time to say, “Somebody’s going to stand up for us like they always do.” Why can’t that somebody be you? I understand, nobody has the answers or the solutions right now but does that gives us the reason to give up? Absolutely, not. If anything, that should give us the reason to be the solution and strive harder for a change.

“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela


I was taught to love. Love is the most beautiful thing to experience in life. But you have to love the right way. Love is pure—it comes from deep within your heart. When you love someone, it’s not based from the outside appearance only but from the inside as well. Love comes with patience, understanding, caring and continuous growth. You see, love is not based on color—if anything, love is colorblind. The only way we can teach our generations to love is to be the prime example. But how can we set out an example for our children to love if they’re constantly reminded through the media that black people are being slaughtered out there senselessly because of the color of their skin? The saddest part of it all is that nothing has really changed since racism occurred back in 1600’s. Here we are today in 2016, facing the same issue that should have been resolved a long time ago. Are we as Black African-American people not good enough for White-America? What do we have to do to prove that we matter too? Jessie Williams said it best, “Just because we’re magic, does not mean we’re not real.” This post is not for just black people to read—it’s for everyone who are not only affected by this tragic event but also would like to make a difference in this world. We have to inform our young children that yes, All Lives Matter but right now we need to all come together and focus on Black Lives Matter because we’re hurting. If the time is not now, then when? Until it happens to you or someone close? Let us all love one another by showing support to put an end to police brutality. No life is greater or less than the other.


“When they go low, we go high” – Michelle Obama

Violence is not the answer. The outcome of it will show satisfaction for only a temporary amount of time. The hurt will still be rooted and the agony will always remain. The perception of revenge is to never stoop down to their level(s)—a quick reaction of anger shows merely weakness. The strongest weapon is not physical—it’s mental. Use your brain and educate yourself. In some cases, it’s difficult to feel defeated and useless among the awful things that are happening and you can’t help eradicate it. I was in the same position too, but then I came to realize that I am useful and doing my part to bring awareness. The tools that I have right in front of me: Social media and my blog website —I’m utilizing it in a positive way by spreading love, support and justice. The places that I’ve been to: School, church and in my community—I am voicing my opinion and making it known that I will not give up until a change comes. You may not have a huge fan-based on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram—that’s fine, don’t let the intimidation of others stop you from being a solution to the world’s problem. You don’t have to be famous, popular or well-known by most people to show your support. No matter how small you may feel, understand that your voice counts and you matter too. Love is the answer and through God we will overcome this darkness.

My condolences goes out to the police officers whose lives were taken away recently, may God be with their families and friends. Rest in peace to the victims of the horrific terrorist tragedies that happened in Orlando, Nice, Brussels, and the list goes on. Spread more love and no more hate. Rest in Power to the victims of police brutality; Pedro Erik Villanueva,  Sandra Bland, Eric Garner, Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown, Alton Sterling, Philando Castile and many more. You all will never be forgotten.

No justice. No Peace. No Racist Police. 

Dhane Philord

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