Go at your own pace. Life is not a competition—you don’t have to compete with anybody in this world but yourself. Comparing your life to others will only set you up for failure. It’s fine to admire but do not envy or be a jealous person. There are 24 hours in a day—anything is possible if you put your mind into it. You can be anything you want to be. Not what your parents what you to be, not what your friends end up to be and not what others think is your best interest. You can be anything YOU want to be. Don’t let social media or society fool you. If you’re good at something and realized no other company or person ever crafted such an ideal job for it, create it. Be your own boss and leave the door open for others that want to achieve the same opportunity as you. Your mind is more valuable than your beauty. How you look is a bonus, beauty will take you nowhere. If you want to be successful, you’re going to need more than just a pretty face and a nice body. But darlings, you should already know this—there are no shortcuts to success. Always keep this core value as a reminder: Honesty. Discipline. Integrity. Respect. HARD-WORK. What you do in public is NOTHING compared to what you do in private. You have to earn your way to the top and be true to yourself while going up there. Don’t play yourself.
“Love isn’t going anywhere. When it’s your time you will know it without a doubt.” –Tony Gaskin
There’s no other way to put this: Boys are nasty. No matter how cute, smart, nice, funny, religious or different some may be—it doesn’t change the fact that they are all nasty. They have one thing and only one thing in their mind and it’s not to marry you. Remember the cooties? It’s true, there is such thing as the cooties. As an adult, the most common words for cooties are STD’s such as AIDS, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, and more. Oh yeah, it’s real out there. Don’t grow up too fast. Please. Take your time. It’s cute to have a childhood boyfriend, a high school sweetheart or to be in love with someone since y’all was jitty-bugs, but it’s not for everybody and that’s completely fine. Love is not going anywhere. I didn’t stop playing with Barbie dolls until I was 14 years old. I didn’t wear anything that hugged my curves or showed my feminine side until I graduated high school. I had my first kiss when I was 20 years old. I was a late bloomer when it came to being in a relationship. Some people will have you thinking that having a boyfriend is the coolest trend ever and will leave you to believe that you’re weird or something is wrong with you for not having one. But I’ve concluded that being in a relationship (especially at a young age) is not even worth the hype. It can be quite dangerous and too much load. You do not need that in your life right now, trust me. Get out of your feelings and LIVE.
Time is so precious. Time is oh so precious. Just imagine the time you wasted holding on to his broken promises, waiting for a reply back, a phone call, or spending money on materialistic things just to please a boy that will only disappoint you in the end. It’s not worth it. If another girl claims him, let her have him and deal with his mess. Believe me when I tell you, your time to love will come. Focus on building a platform and bettering yourself. Put yourself on the highest pedestal and don’t you ever let those boys get the best of you. Your body’s a temple, treat it with respect and as corny or unrealistic it may appear to be… it’s worth it to wait until marriage. If he doesn’t agree with you, he is not the one for you. Drop him and keep it moving. But if you haven’t wait until marriage, oh my beautiful Queens—it’s never too late to start over. Forgive yourself. Allow yourself the chance to flourish and move forward in the right direction. Everyone had their hearts broken once or twice before but that doesn’t define your final destination. It’s a lesson learn and a bigger blessing ahead. Keep your head up and fix your crown, it’s going to be O.K. Always include God in your plans. You will receive true love and everything you ever imagined, but you have to be patience. It’s all about faith, loving yourself and patience.
“Black is Beautiful.” -Every Black Girls with Confidence
You are beautiful. Always remember that. Don’t be ashamed of your big lips and wide nose. Those are unique features that emphasize your beauty. The way the sun kisses your skin every time you step outside is simply amazing. All that melanin, you go girl—keep on shining. We don’t fit society’s standard of beauty and young Queens, that’s alright. We cannot be cast out, instead we stand out because of this thing called, “Black Girls Magic.” We’re so magical. I’ve mentioned previously about our ‘Black Excellence’ PLENTY of time on my blog. Makeup is something some of us use to enhance our beauty but the real beauty is behind it. Embrace your flaws and natural beauty and be proud of your freckles, uneven skin toned and scars. Weave is just an accessory, my young Queens untamed your hair and be FREE. It’s cool to rock a weave or a protective hairstyle from time to time but never forget where you come from. Get out there in this world and show them how BOLD and DIFFERENT you can be. Raise your voice and stand up tall. Let your name be known. Take pride in who you are and be proud of who you are. Never settle for less and always remain collective as a classy young lady. Positioned your crown and go after your dream(s). Speak with confidence and allow yourself to be YOU. Try not to gossip and never judge a book by its cover. Only speak positive and shed light to others who are in need of it. Spread love, don’t hate. I am writing this letter to let you all know how appreciated and loved each and every one of you are. You are beautiful. We are beautiful. Black is beautiful. Never forget that.