Have you ever been in a position where you feel like it was time for a change? You’ve been single for a while and your home girls are all boo’ed up with their man and their just giving you that sympathy expression like, “when are you ever going to find yourself a man?” You sit at home and the only people that’s blowing your phone up are the usual (your family members, colleagues, your male friend who’s more like a brother and will never in a million years get a chance to be with you or worst…bill collectors.) It’s those dreadful nights where you would stay up, home alone watching all kinds of romantic movies on Netflix with butter-cream ice-cream scooped around your arms like your life depend on it. There’s no excitement in your life and you’re propably wondering if you’re the only person going through this phase in life.
You got it that bad. Although you don’t want to be a hater, you can’t stand seeing two love birds on sight whenever you’re going out in public at the mall, grocery stores, oh and let’s not forget about the gym: There’s always that one perfect couple making a grand appearance after each sessions; and you’re on the treadmill struggling to maintain focus because you can’t stop admiring Barbie and her six -pack abs along with her Ken man and his six-pack, together they’re glowing with hard-working sweats dripping on their studded body. Every move they make is a kiss here and a kiss there..just kissing right in front of your face, don’t care who’s watching. Yeah, it’s really time for a change.
There’s nothing wrong with being single. If you choose to be single because of a recent break-up from a previous relationship and you rather focus on yourself instead, then that’s really the way to go…staying single. But after a few months, you can’t deny the good feeling of being in love or to be love by someone. It’s a good feeling. Those lonely daze can feel like forever and during those depressing time, all you can think about is how Mr. Wrong was wrong all along, how you should have never brought it this far and thinking how much of a fool you was…blah, blah, blah, cursing at yourself and crying your eyes out. The real point of the matter is: so what, lets move on and stop worrying about not finding Mr. Right and find some time for Mr. Chance. Drilling every guys you meet until you find it in your picky mind that he may be the one for you is no longer an option. Get that out of your head…now.
Try turning your single days into your mingling days. Treat yourself to a little shopping spree and change your wardrobe up. Start wearing clothes that represents a brand new you. Buy a certain type of dress or skirt that insinuate your beautiful curves and show it off in a respectable manner (if you know what I mean, not too tight-just right). Instead of wearing your everyday flats, exchange them for some sexy heels. Even if you’re going to the grocery store, wear them out confidently because you never know who may be looking. Mr. Chance could be down the “healthy food” isle giving you that look. But don’t start doing an examination of Mr. Right Radar on him. Return the look back by gesturing a warm smile through your eyes and then smile. There’s no need to ruin the moment by pulling your list out and start asking him a million questions. Take it slow. If he approaches you first with an introduction, then began to make your next move by introducing yourself as well. Who’s Mr. Chance? Let me break it down for you:
Mr. Chance is not the kind of guy you want to stress yourself too much over. He’s just that guy you can talk to or hang out with, when your girlfriends ditches you to go out on a date with their significant other. (those kind of nights is when Mr. Chance can really come in handy). He’ the type of guy who is replaceable without a given time or day, you can drop him like he’s hot and find another one just like that. There’s no need to explain yourself if he ends up being a player, lying cheating bull dog, just drop him like he’s hot with ease, no hard feelings. Very simple. He’s not someone you should take serious unless it gets to that extent, then that’s another story. Mr. Chance can keep you company until Mr. Right comes along (that’s if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right). There’s still rules when it comes to engaging your time with someone; they have to be worth your time. So with that being said, make sure he’s not a dead-beat father, stuck in a baby mama drama situation, married, in a relationship, ex-convict, abuser or any of the bad examples you could think of…drop him like he’s hot. Make sure he have his ish together first. Other than that, the rest about him shouldn’t matter at all.
The biggest thing you will need to avoid doing is to stop expecting so much out of Mr. Chance. Don’t assume that he can be the potential husband you’ve been dreaming about and expect him to play the husband role. The truth is, he may not be your potential husband, so don’t set yourself up for failure. Let things flow between the two of you and find the time to enjoy each others company. Get to know him on a friendship level and always do things out of love and kindness. Enjoy life and stop counting the years you have left for marriage or setting up a time limit to find Mr. Right to build a family together. You’re going to miss out the best things in life if you don’t live a little. Dance in the rain and sing out loud. It’s OK. Life happens and you have to make the best out of it. It doesn’t hurt to flirt a little and it doesn’t cost anything to give Mr. Chance a chance. So if you’re laying down in bed reading this and your convinced about this then give Mr. Chance a call and give him a chance. You can thank me later…